It’s been another tough week. I’ve mentioned before that my 88 year-old mother in law was living with us for the past year. We’ve known for some time that her days on this earth were coming to an end, and a little after 2:00 this morning she passed away. It was a very peaceful event, and we all know she’s in a better place.
For the past week, we’ve had nurses from Hospice around the clock. I can’t say enough for these folks. They were absolutely amazing, and they made sure her final days were comfortable, while preserving her dignity to the end. We will be forever indebted to them.
As for Jane, I could tell a lot of stories, and I’m sure I will in the coming weeks. She was a unique individual, and I can honestly say that in the 33 years I’ve known her, I never did fully figure her out. I think that’s how she wanted it. But you always knew where you stood with her. Always.
It’ll be hard to adjust, especially over the next few days. Life with an elderly person, especially one with advanced dementia, presents a set of challenges that you can’t begin to comprehend until you’re in the middle of it. But it also gave us a lot of special memories, and plenty of laughs. We’ll hold onto those memories as we move forward and adjust to a life that doesn’t involve breathing treatments, wheelchairs, and babysitters.
It’s funny, a week ago before things went downhill, Jane was really concerned about the time change to daylight savings time. At least a dozen times in three days, she asked us when the time was going to change. For the past couple of days, we’ve wondered if she somehow knew that was her time. Some people seem to have a sixth sense about these things. And as fate would have it, she passed away twenty minutes after the time change.
Knowing Jane, I think she just refused to go in the dead of winter. And yes, it’s technically still winter for another week, but I think somehow the time change represented springtime to her. And she wanted to blossom in the spring. It’s strange how these things work.
And as we welcome the somewhat slow arrival of spring, we’re also looking forward to putting this winter behind us, especially the past two weeks. Things happen for a reason, and we all go through heartaches in our lives. But the important thing is, we also have those moments of joy, wonder, and magic that make life special. And along with those moments come memories – lots of wonderful memories.
I should probably say rest in peace, but if I know Jane the party is just beginning. A lot of people have been awaiting her arrival, and I’m sure there’s a pretty intense reunion going on in Heaven. For now, we’ll hold down the fort here. But it’s nice to know we’ve got one more person watching over us in case we mess up.
So thank you Jane, for everything. We’ll miss you.